My aim is to inspire people around the world one blog post at a time.
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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch your own business. Maybe you want to escape the rat race and find peace in simple living. Maybe you want to improve your health. Whatever your dream is, it is valid!
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Dreams without action are just dreams. But taking action doesn’t necessarily mean quitting your job and burning the ocean. Small steps matter. It is the ability to plug away consistently at something over time that is the key. Small steps add up. You’ll get there!
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If you keep building slowly and consistently with passion each day, adding value that matters to you, then the growth will take care of itself. The keys to achieving success are patience and avoiding complacency.
Why Are You So Defensive?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you acted in a way that seemed out of character? Maybe you avoided confronting a problem or reacted in anger when you felt hurt.
These are all examples of psychological defence mechanisms at work—the shields we unconsciously use to protect ourselves from uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, or situations.
So, why do we do this? Why do our minds employ such complex mechanisms to shield us from reality?
Well, it all comes down to survival, both physical and emotional.
Evolutionarily, our brains are wired to keep us safe and ensure our well-being. However, not only external threats trigger these defences; internal conflicts and distressing emotions can also prompt their activation.
So, let's delve into some of the most common psychological shields and explore how we use them in our lives.
It’s Time to Take a Pill (But Not a Chill Pill)
In life, there's this idea that sometimes we need to take a "Red Pill".
The metaphorical "red pill" derives from the iconic scene in the movie "The Matrix," where Neo is offered a choice between a red pill, symbolising truth and awakening, or a blue pill, representing ignorance and conformity.
This allegory has since been appropriated to describe confronting harsh realities, even when they challenge one's beliefs or comfort.
Therefore, the red pill concept is about stepping out of a comfortable but unrealistic way of thinking—a symbol for facing harsh truths even if they're tough to handle.
Four Types of Men - Which Do Women Prefer?
Understanding the various types of men and their associated characteristics can offer valuable insights into their behaviour and what you can expect from a relationship with them.
These classifications of men often stem from social and evolutionary psychology, cultural norms and societal expectations.
So, let's delve into the different kinds of males and explore why women may prefer one type over another.
First off, we have the alpha male. This term originates from the study of animal behaviour, particularly in wolf packs where the alpha male is the dominant leader.
In human society, alpha males are typically confident, assertive, and ambitious.
They're natural leaders who command respect and admiration from others. Alpha males tend to be outgoing, competitive, and goal-oriented, often excelling in positions of power and authority.
They're decisive decision-makers, not ones to waver or second-guess themselves.
You May Be Smarter Than You Think
Most people are familiar with the concept of Intelligence Quotient (IQ).
IQ (Intelligence Quotient) tests have been the litmus test for intelligence for the last Century.
But IQ tests can inaccurately measure an individual's intelligence and cause problems, including low confidence, unrealistic expectations, and a generally flawed understanding of a person's potential.
After conducting the most extensive online intelligence study on record, a Western University-led research team has concluded that measuring one's intelligence quotient or IQ by a singular, standardised test is highly misleading.
So, is there a way to look at intelligence differently?
I Was Happy For Awhile
Have you ever felt delighted? Not just for a few fleeting moments here and there.
No, I'm talking about a long-term, deep sense of fulfilment. A feeling that makes you say, "Life is so worth living. I'm glad to be who I am, and I am grateful to be alive".
And you feel and say this every day and mean it.
Mmm, I thought so.
You are not alone. You may be surprised how many people don't feel deep-rooted happiness.
The question is, why is this?
Let's start by looking at the biology of happiness.
The brain releases several neurotransmitters, often referred to as "happy chemicals," that contribute to feelings of pleasure and well-being …
Are You a Puppet on a String?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel like you're being manipulated emotionally but can't quite put your finger on it?
Emotional manipulation is a subtle yet powerful tool individuals use to control, influence, or exploit others.
A manipulator may be somebody who's insecure and tries to boost themselves up by putting others down or making them feel guilty.
It may also be someone who is super controlling and uses manipulation to keep people in line or get what they want without considering how it affects them.
Sometimes, a manipulator is just really good at reading people and knows how to push their buttons to get what they want.
They could even be your friend, family member, partner, or coworker.
Let's take a closer look at some common emotional manipulation tactics …
His Brain … Her Brain … Different Wiring
According to American author, John Gray, “Men are from Mars”.
They're logical, analytical, and solution-oriented beings with a penchant for problem-solving and a distaste for emotional melodrama.
In contrast, “Women are from Venus” and from the moment you set foot on Venusian soil, a tidal wave of emotions will sweep you away.
According to Gray, women have an uncanny ability to understand and empathise intuitively with the feelings of others.
And yet, despite their seemingly insurmountable differences, men and women are drawn to each other like moths to a flame.
So, are men and women truly wired differently?
Who Will Cry When You Die?
Have you ever asked yourself, "Who will cry when I die?"
In Robin Sharma's book Who Will Cry When You Die? Life Lessons from the Monk Who Sold His Ferrari", he delves into the essence of living a meaningful life and leaving behind a lasting legacy of love and contribution.
In today's fast-paced world, it's too easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, chasing after success, wealth, and status.
We often find ourselves misled into focusing our energy and effort on things and people that ultimately don't matter much in the grander scheme.
Through a collection of short, insightful chapters, Sharma offers profound insights and actionable advice to help individuals live a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
Here are ten key lessons from the book …
A World Without Ethics
Imagine you're faced with a dilemma.
It could be as simple as deciding whether or not to cheat on a test or as complex as making a corporate decision that could impact thousands of lives.
Ordinarily, your decisions should be based on a combination of factors like your rational thought processes and the values and ethics you subscribe to.
But what happens if this fails?
Let us look at examples of companies who have got things wrong and the devastating consequences that can result when ethical considerations are sidelined in favour of short-term gains or competitive advantage.
An Introvert in a World Built for Extraverts
In Susan Cain's illuminating book, "Quiet: The Power of Introverts," she refers to "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking".
Introverts and extroverts are personality types that describe how people gain energy and interact with the world around them.
Introverts tend to recharge by spending time alone or in small groups. They often prefer quieter, more introspective activities like reading, writing, or spending time in nature.
On the other hand, extroverts gain energy from being around other people and engaging in social activities. They tend to be gregarioius, talkative, and enjoy being the centre of attention.
So with this in mind, grab your favourite cosy spot and settle in as we explore the book's key themes with supporting examples that celebrate the power of introversion.
Stupidity is Universal and Dangerous
"Remember, when you are dead, you do not know you are dead. It is only painful for others. The same applies when you are stupid." - Ricky Gervais
Imagine a world where stupidity isn't a random occurrence but a predictable force governing human behaviour.
It sounds bizarre, right?
Well, that's precisely what Professor Carlo M. Cipolla, an Italian economic historian, dared to propose back in 1976.
He published an essay describing the fundamental laws of what he perceived as the greatest existential threat to humanity: stupidity.
The Tyranny of the Top Floor
Ah, the allure of the top floor.
The pinnacle of corporate success is where CEOs reside in corner offices with panoramic views, and executives make high-level decisions that shape the company's future.
Many young professionals dream of working at a large company's head office and are ambitious and impatient in pursuing this.
But behind the glossy facade of corner offices and executive perks lies realities that few fully comprehend until they've experienced it firsthand.
I call it the "tyranny of the top floor".
The Boardroom Psycho
Imagine a world where the boardroom is a battleground, and the players wear suits instead of armour.
In "Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work," authors Paul Babiak and Robert D. Hare offer a chilling glimpse into this reality—one where psychopathy infiltrates the corporate landscape and leaves a trail of manipulation and destruction in its wake.
Contrary to popular belief, psychopathy is not solely confined to the criminal underworld.
While some psychopaths may engage in criminal behaviour, many others operate within legal boundaries, holding positions of power and authority in society.
You’re Biased and I’ll Prove It
Bias is a word that often carries negative connotations, suggesting unfairness, prejudice, and discrimination.
But bias is inherent in all of us, rooted in our cognitive processes, social conditioning, and lived experiences.
While biases can indeed lead to unfair treatment or distorted judgments, they also serve as adaptive shortcuts that help us navigate the complexities of the world around us.
So, let's explore the nature of bias, why it exists, and how it manifests in our everyday lives. We can do this by looking at twelve of the most common biases (there are many more) that influence human behaviour.
Everyone’s Entitled To My Opinion
So, surprise, surprise … we all have opinions.
Some are as harmless as debating the best flavour of ice cream, while others touch on more substantial matters like climate change, moral justice, or various scientific theories.
But what exactly constitutes an opinion, and how much weight should we assign to them?
Let's begin by taking a trip back to ancient Greece, where the wise philosopher Plato noted that opinions are beliefs that lack the certainty of knowledge.
Kill the Culture Crocodiles
"Culture Eats Strategy for Breakfast" - Peter Drucker
The above is a well-known and often quoted saying attributed to the renowned management consultant Peter Drucker.
Paradoxically, many companies have some giant crocodiles lurking in the waters of their company culture. Sadly, these crocodiles prey on the harmony and vitality of the organisation and pose a significant threat to its well-being and success.
A toxic organisational culture left unchecked will ultimately destroy an otherwise great business.
Intuitive Leadership in a Sensory World
Imagine standing at a crossroads and trying to decide which path to take.
Sensing people are the ones who carefully observe their surroundings, noting every detail—the texture of the ground beneath their feet, the rustle of leaves in the breeze, the faint scent of flowers in the air. They rely on concrete data and tangible information to guide their decisions, like a well-worn map that leads them from point A to point B.
On the other hand, intuitive people are the dreamers, the visionaries who see beyond the surface and into the realm of possibilities. They're less concerned with the details and more focused on the big picture, relying on gut instincts and flashes of insight to guide their decisions.
Karma is a Bitch
The phrase "Karma is a Bitch" emerged as a colloquial expression to convey the idea that negative actions or intentions can come back to haunt us in unexpected and often unpleasant ways.
It suggests that when someone engages in harmful behaviour or mistreats others, they will eventually face repercussions.
The use of the word "bitch" in this context emphasizes the harsh or punitive nature of karma's consequences.
It also implies that karma has a way of delivering justice with a bite, especially to those who have behaved unfairly or maliciously towards others.
But where does the concept of karma come from?
Why We Judge What We Don’t Know
Have you ever felt that people are quick to judge? Are you sometimes quick to judge?
Have you ever wondered why we judge what we don't know or understand?
Even the most hardened criminal gets his day in court, where all evidence is carefully weighed before judgment is pronounced.
And yet, as humans, we struggle to extend the same courtesy to one another.
The fifth habit Steven R. Covey mentions in his best-selling book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" is "Seek First To Understand, Then Be Understood".
I would argue that for most of us this is not the habit we have cultivated.
So, what are the reasons behind our inclination to pass judgment on what we don't know or understand?
Lost in the Crowd
In a world where social media platforms like YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram offer the tantalizing promise of instant fame and fortune, it's easy to get swept up in the allure of being rich and famous with just the click of a button.
But the reality is far more complex, akin to showing up once for a football or cricket game and expecting to be spotted by the television cameras amidst a sea of thousands of supporters.
Imagine you have dreams of becoming the next big thing on YouTube, with millions of adoring fans hanging on your every word.